The power of words and feelings

The first agreement from The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz is be impeccable with your word. Words have the power to lift another or cut them off at the knees.  We chose our words sometimes that choice is with love and compassion, while other times we say things without thinking.  We may believe we are being helpful while sharing information that really is none of our business.  I think when choosing our words we may optimize our message by remembering to take care of our own business.  Business falls into 3 categories: Our own business, Other people’s business, and God’s business.  If we stick to our own business and are impeccable with our word, imagine how different life could be.  Other people’s and God’s business are NOT our responsibility.

I was reminded how damaging thoughtless words can be.  A wonderful friend received feedback that hurt her feelings.  The feedback was delivered from a person who simply did not understand the complexity of the situation and on top of that, it was about other people’s business.  Even though my dear friend intellectually realized the feedback was not something to get upset about, her feelings begged to differ.  Witnessing her struggle brought back so many times where I have allowed words to cut deep into my heart.  We all navigate painful words differently.  I tend to retreat, walk, write, cry and then clean like mad to rid myself of the funk.  The pain lingers way too long for my liking!  I also try to shift emotional gears and look for the lesson in the situation.  There always is one.  Often times the lesson for me is to stop giving a fuck. (The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck is an awesome book!)

Kind loving words build me up yet in a different way.  Self-love is an inside job.  External validation of words can only do so much.  If I don’t feel good about myself at the time then the loving words seem to bounce right off because I don’t believe them.  The thoughtless words hurt so much because they mirror some negative belief that no longer serves me. My goal is to savor the positive words with as much vengeance as the thoughtless words do. I want those loving external reminders to dominate my days and linger just as long as the painful ones do.   I suppose the next step is to stop craving the external reminders at all and simply love life as it is in each moment.  How convenient that the second agreement is do not take things personally.  Uggh!

Namaste!

Kristin
Forever learning
Let it go

First full circle assignment established

In 1994 I graduated VCU with a degree in Occupational therapy and, Sioux Falls, SD was ranked in the top 10 places to live.  I craved a fresh start to my adulthood and the beginning of a career in a new place.  I thought Sioux Falls would be a great place to meet all of those desired goals.  Life happened and I ended up in Danville, VA.  Here I am 24 years later rearranging my life.

I am entering a new chapter and decided to utilize short-term (13 weeks) traveling OT positions to assist in finding my next landing spot.  It just so happened that a position in Sioux Falls became available for the summer.  I interviewed, was offered the position and accepted on Monday.  Everything just fell into perfect place after an extended time of uncertainty.

Leaving Danville is the right thing for my soul growth.  Not having a clear plan with a temporary landing spot is frighteningly outside of my comfort zone.  Trusting recruiters in the travel industry to guide me to a great working partnership in my desired areas is challenging for a planner like me.  I left everything I know to jump fully into 90% of what I don’t.  I know how to be an OT, a good citizen, and drive.  Yet I don’t know anything about where or how to set up temporary positions all over the country while trying to discover my next landing spot to call home.  Fortunately, a connection was made within hours of contacting the recruiter meant for me at this moment.  She absolutely knocked it out of the park in getting everything in place.

Once the assignment was made, I was able to see that this experience turned out better than I ever could imagine.  My vacation time between jobs was extended by a week.  Who doesn’t want that?  The assignment fell in perfect alignment for my plans in August to return to my family.  I am able to stay out West with my dear friend longer.  Due to the location of this assignment, I am able to visit the Badlands on my way to SD.  The very best part of the travel to the assignment is that I am going to spend two days with my favorite boyfriend of all times; Jack the Jackass!  Remember him?  The donkey that loves me in Scenic, SD at the Circle View Ranch.

Living in Sioux Falls full time can be awful.  Yet I am spending the 3 very best months of the year in that magical city.  Stay tuned for wonderful adventures.  In the meantime, I plan to fully absorb all of the love and light Moab, UT has to offer.

Namaste!

Kristin Springfield

14 day detox

14 days later I have shed an immeasurable amount of emotional weight.  My clothes look different, my body feels better, my skin glows brighter and most importantly my spirit is lighter.  The most surprising difference is the voice of my heart is much louder!  Hot Damn, I can hear it!

Now that loss may be due to being on a life break, yet that is what a detox is all about.  You remove the toxins from your life for a period of time which allows the opportunity for your body and spirit to thrive.

Yes, the statement, “Wherever you go, there you are” is true.   This means we take our emotional garbage with us no matter where we are.  Yet another true statement is, “Location, Location, Location.”  Where I am physically makes a tremendous difference in my outlook.  Spending the last 7 days in Moab has made my heart sing.  I am catching up on my truly restful sleep in a lovely camper.  Who knows, maybe a camper will be part of my future.

Namaste!

Kristin Springfield

Moab Lover