Settling in with gratitude!

Journey and I are settling into our new “home”.  We have found places to hike, parks to yoga in and a home where we are adored.  Work can always be tricky for a temporary employee.  This new assignment started a week ago, and my mind is completely blown away!  I stepped into the office to be greeted by a team of happy faces, laughter, and kindness.  This was such a breath of fresh air.  As it is not always a welcoming experience when a temporary person walks on to the job.  After a tour of the office, my seat was pointed out, where I found a frame with all new employees names featured.  Mine was included in the list, and the spelling was correct!  At my seat was everything I would need to succeed in orientation.  My heart began to swell with delight and I could feel the tears coming behind my eyes.  When I learned that all meals during our first few days of orientation were provided along with a personal travel coffee mug, the tears escaped.  I apologized to my new boss as she smiled and let me know I was okay.  She went a step further to make sure I knew how glad they are to have me on their team.

Such kindness in the workplace makes my heart sing.  My life experiences have brought me to a place where the VERY simple gestures of life filled with compassion, consideration, and kindness are so deeply appreciated.  There were times in my life that I would have not have described this orientation as extravagant and it certainly would not have brought tears to my eyes.    Is this shift due to a personal history of being shit on in the professional and personal environment?  Maaayyyybeee.   Yet, it is wonderful evolving into a person who is grateful for the small things in life.  I have come to a place where I truly understand it really is the small things that people do that create the most impact.  I chose to focus on the loving gestures coming my way.

Thank you Bayada Home Health Care for treating me with such compassion, and creating an environment where I am welcome.

Simple gestures matter!

Forever Grateful

One power: Love

During my last week off, I spent 3 days on an emotional healing retreat in Sedona before settling into my winter home in Sierra Vista.  I spent time in guided meditation and other amazing types of healing sessions all centered on letting go of residual emotional garbage that continues to replay in my mind regardless of my efforts.  Something clicked this time; there is only one power worth investing in, and that is Love!

Three years ago I quit life, got in my car and drove across the country with the purpose to hug trees and love myself again.  It was a wildly successful trip, yet healing a lifetime of self-depreciating beliefs takes more than one road trip to rewrite loving messages across my heart, soul, and mind. I gifted myself with 4 days of healing with Inner Journeys on that 2015 trip.  Returning to Inner Journeys on this particular trip of 2018 felt kind of like coming home.  It is always easier to work with trusted healers after they already understand your brand of “messed up”.

The resonating message during this retreat revolved around my lack of feeling safe and worthy of love, help, companionship, etc.  For those of you who understand chakras, my root chakra was in dire straits.  During a session, I shared that frequently I feel as though I’m hovering above my bed and that I have to remind myself that it is okay to allow the bed/floor/earth to hold me.  It was not so surprising to realize, that I am in constant fight or flight mode.  A go-to technique for me to find peace is physical exhaustion.  You pick the physical activity that I possess the skills for and I will do it until I have nothing left; yoga, running, cycling, hiking, and dancing.  If I am not sweating, it isn’t “enough”. I am able to understand this underlying insane drive and chose to do something different.

I am a Human Being, not a Human Doing. Being requires nothing of me other than to be me, oh and breathe.  Learning more specific meditation tailored to me proved to be profound.  Yet understanding and embracing there is only one power, LOVE, is the game changer.  My focus, energy, thoughts, and beliefs have been divided between Fear and Love.  More often than not, Fear received all of my attention with the hope that one day I would conquer the Fear and then Love would win.  Well, that is not how it works.  I had it backward.  Love is the only power worth my time, effort and energy. Then and only then will Fear fall away.

Choosing Love over Fear is simple to say and embrace when in the safety of my room or in the blissful Sedona environment.  Yet, step outside of Sedona and watch what happens.  The micro decisions made all day long prove to be harder than you realize!  All is fine with focusing on Love with ease until you are lost in the woods, literally.

Just yesterday I took my first hike in Sierra Vista, AZ.  According to my trusty hiking app, this particular canyon hike was to be a 5-mile loop.  Well, that loop turned into a 9 mile vaguely looped unmarked ending with hopes to find the car.  Now that is when it took everything I had inside of me to feed Love, not Fear.  I had water, snacks, a tracker with an SOS button if I got into real trouble, good hiking shoes, no injuries so I kept going.  Eventually, I was going downhill and found a house at the beginning of a road with a light on.  As Journey and I walked up to the house soaked because it had been raining for the past hour and a half, I had to work to choose Love.  I found myself giggling at the sight we must be when a woman nervously answered the door.  I wonder what she chose, Love or Fear.  All I wanted to know was where we were.  Fortunately, we were on the same road as our car according to the last directions I used on Google.  Sadly we were at 33 on the house numbers and our car was at 799.    Continuing to choose Love, we ran and walked along the street to our car and arrived before dark.  Safely making it home we were just in time for chicken soup.  The maps for the area have been downloaded to my Garmin, my housemates’ numbers are in my contacts, and we are ready for our next hike.

Embracing Love rather than Fear kept me much calmer, allowed me to talk a LOT to God along the hike, and kept me grounded during the whole experience.  Today I explored a nearby town, Bisbee.  Being unfamiliar with that area as well, I connected with shopkeepers and followed their advice.  I wandered around aimlessly most of the afternoon.  Much to my surprise, I was more relaxed because there were people around to ask for ideas and directions at every turn.  Continuing to choose Love gifted me with the opportunity to be completely present in each moment of my day.  It was nothing short of heavenly!

Choosing LOVE,


Forever student

I remember:

I remember:

  1. The Universe does a much better job than I do with picking people
    • I have spent a great deal of time on apps in an effort to connect and meet new people. In doing so, I have met great ones, yet have not met “my person”.  There have been plenty of first dates that produced some of the funniest stories of my life.  My brothers continue to remind me that I will meet the best people while I am doing things I enjoy.  This extended time off proved that to be true.  It turns out the Universe does a much better job with putting higher quality people in my path when I do the things I love.   I did not meet “My person”, however, I did meet some incredible folks without so much work.
  2. Dancing frees my soul
    • It has been a LONG time since I have been out dancing.  Doing so in Moab is different for me.  We dress however we want, ride our bikes, and tear up the dance floor like no one is watching.  I was able to keep in mind that people really don’t care what you are doing during our nights of dancing.  It was the most fun I have had in months.  I danced so much that I sweat like I was in a hot yoga class.  The smile on my face was an outward expression of the joy in my soul!
  3. Rollerskating outside in Moab is fun with a breathtaking view of the sunset
    • As a young girl, I roller skated as often as possible.  I skated in the basement, on freshly paved streets and the roller rink.  To this day, whenever I see a newly paved street, I want to skate on it.  In Moab, monthly they have an outdoor rink event.  This is the perfect blend of all my youthful skating; outside, slick concrete and in a rink.  My inner child is in bliss as we spin around wearing classic skates!
  4. Submerge yourself into rushing water with the intent to LET IT GO, and wait for the incredible release!
    • Every time I come to visit Erin in Moab, she shares a new area with me.  This visit was all about waterfalls and submerging yourself in them with a specific purpose.  I focused on letting go of what no longer serves me and creating space for what is in my highest good to flow to me.  Every moment in the water brought me to the present.  When I focus on the present moment, the past and the future not only don’t matter, they don’t exist.  I struggle to stay in that mental place, but when I do, it is spectacularly freeing!
  5. Hiking barefoot connects me to earth in a sensational way
    • The majority of the hikes during this visit were completed barefoot for a variety of reason. Walking in water, on the sand, and over large rocks pretty much demand you to remove your shoes.  Walking barefoot encourages me to slow down, take mindful steps and breathe.  It was exactly what I needed to experience repeatedly during this break!
  6. Biking all around town is even more fun with a friend
    • The fabulous bike from Sioux Falls with streamers and saddle bags was thoroughly enjoyed in Moab as well.  Riding all over this town with Erin proved to be even more fun! Late night rides under the stars added a new element to the joy of biking I had not expected.
  7. I love living with a kind, generous, considerate, loving, funny and adventurous spirit!  Thank you, Erin, for creating a Moab home for Journey and me!
    • I head to my next assignment with the intent to connect with the optimal family for Journey and me to thrive.  I trust the Universe completely to put exactly who I need to connect with in my path.

Here’s to Letting all that does not serve me,